Were you the one in your family who always got into trouble about the things you felt like doing even if you knew it could bring you into trouble? Willing to take the risk of being punished instead of not doing it? Maybe you rebelled against the things that according to your parents you "should" have done. Or, you might know a person who is like this.
What is our first response when someone does something that according to us is "wrong"? We get upset with them and tell them "don't, you are wrong!" What do they do? Get angry at us. Most of the times they end up doing it anyway. Why?
They are strong-willed.Explorers. Did you know that a lot of the strong-willed people in life have the potential to reach great heights? The same will that makes them act out at times is what drives them to become their best.
So, what should we do then? Let them do as they please? Just leave them be? Not let them take responsibility for what they've done?
None of the above. Just approach them differently. When you talk to them act out of love and not anger. Rather find out why they did it instead of just telling them that they were wrong and are not allowed to do it. Then, when you have calmed down talk to him about how you feel and why.
The best thing you can do when you feel you are at the end of your rope is to pray and ask God to bless that person.
Easy for me to say right? I don't have kids. Only thing is, this does not apply to kids only. It involves anyone who crosses your path. Family, a friend, co-worker or people in different walks of life.
Believe me it works. Of course it is an on-going process and doesn't just fix things overnight. You might have to do it over and over again, for a long period of time. God always answers our prayers.
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